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About effective communication, written and spoken by many. Starting with the general rules of etiquette and ending with a very specific advice on how to pronounce words and choose where and how much time to focus on the eye, how to combine gestures and so on. ... And really, types of shells you can learn the art of active listening, conversation can consciously ask more open-ended questions, choose types of shells the more positive statements. But even then may happen as often happens through well prepared for any politician's election campaign - watch this one, then the other listener after a perfect speaker's speech and begins to reckon, "he speaks beautifully, even movements and" polished "- no reticence suggestive gestures, open palms and a pretty smile show himself friendly ... but somehow I feel that I am an empty place for him, it only takes care of your image ... ".
Elections, there has its own laws, but if you communicate with colleagues, managers, client (or the client themselves are), and if you like him, making everything very correctly - smiling, avoiding to be crossed hands and so on. - Still smell the some kind of uncertainty, then something is wrong. What? Consciously, we can even go unnoticed - maybe smile dropped lips, and eyes nesišypsojo, maybe wandering gaze most important things you speak issued by the interviewer desire to be anywhere else. Sometimes the conversation and had no connection to the action types of shells or remark allows to understand the true position. Eg., The sales manager, came to the company, communicate types of shells with you very kindly and offers his services, he also kindly ask the cook what you and even takes on the information leaflet, but the window watching him leave you see how he throws the booklet to the nearest trash. Or partner promise "golden mountains" types of shells and speaks of mutual support, but the first time you request pout services, refuse, even though you know that it would not cost that much, and you would find a way out of a tricky situation.
Let's say, we felt that humor is not right for us, not accepting us, not supportive, and repellent. Who will continue to communicate? types of shells Pyksimės or whether we are open nicely, will depend types of shells on the context, but all the elements of effective communication (active listening, open-closed questions proportions of positive statements), and even use them very perfectly, that no longer have any magical power, which promises to memory training and tutorials. Why? So that the only entrance to the circle of communication is through the adoption of the gate. " In other words, if the stand, you are important to me, I consider you worthy / equivalent, gate opens to the other person.
As symbols below: walkway from one person to another (from one gate to the next) is not intended for one-way traffic. There are always at least two people: one says or does something, and the other to be responsible; then reacted first to the second verbal and non-verbal signals, and so on ... Eric Berne (Eric Berne), known psychotherapist, such reactions in which people communicate is changing, called transactions, transaction analysis and developed a theory that helps understand what is going on in communication. The provisions that determines the transaction will be "running" E.Bernas divided into 4 groups. How to?
Žiūrėkim. I can have a dual attitude towards the other person: types of shells 1. you are great, everything is well with you - you're OK or 2. you are poor, you are zero - you Neokon. And just as I have a dual attitude towards yourself: 1. I am a great, types of shells all is well with me - I am OK or 2. I am poor, I am zero - am Neokon. In total, the schematic depiction, we see that comes out four combinations.
In accordance with the provisions of "I great - you zero", the building itself into an overriding position, and as such I feel. Naturally, the next play down ... Even if you do not say to him, it can be seen and felt during a call from a number of verbal and non-verbal signals. If such a scheme types of shells will partner and will support types of shells it, it will feel inferior ("I have zero - you great") and will act as behaving "zero."
As a "zero" behave? 1. continues to suffer and communication; 2. avoid such communication, running away from it; so it no longer wants to be with me, and I lost it žmgaus; 3. starts to rebel, trying to himself and others to prove that the opposite is true - that here it is OK, but I - zero, Oral, met with retaliation, and perhaps soon will be built under the heading "Neokon, then I'll take no longer feel an overriding and undermined inferior. True, it is worth noting that the 1st behavior types of shells (suffer) long and can not continue ...
Such communication at work, sutiksit probably not appropriate. Do you think that the position held or experiences can justify such a position? Still talking about the provisions, we are talking about knowledge or other expertise, especially not about status, but of respect, we feel just humans as human beings. If I have merit, types of shells and I think that this might be underestimated or even despise the other - a folk saying I am "to rise up." However, if the possession of merit and